I've decided I'm going to do a sex blog for women, out of sheer audacity as much as anything else. I need to do a bit of research first before it's up and running, as it's the sort of thing where you really do need to know what you're talking about. So for now I'm hoping that The Divine Tease will be a breeding ground for new ideas.

Porn for women fascinates me because it seems as though women are making a conscious decision to view porn, whereas men have an unfortunate habit of thinking with their dicks! I also think that the standard of eroticism is higher in women's porn, which is something I've long aspired to see (and to promote) in porn. I also tend to find it easier to write erotically than explicitly, as I'm generally much fonder of the language of suggestion. My friend who got me into this tells me I should use as many "keywords" as possible, but what the fuck is the point of swearing when you can speak eloquently? I'm a British misanthrope, and British misanthropes are supposed to speak like Hannibal Lecter! And I've always been of the Eminem school of "if you're going to swear, swear at the point of maximum impact". It sounds terribly prudish to refer to it as swearing I know, but what's the point of developing a vocabulary if you're not going to use it?

Anyway, women's porn. It seems to me as though there are many quality non-professional women's blogs out there, but many of the more professional blogs and sites are restrained by concerns of niche etc. Now of course this is inevitable and is not really a criticism. But it seems to me that if female sexuality is a much less "tangible" thing than male sexuality, then it should be presented in a much less tangible way. And if female sexuality is more of a "whole" experience of mind body and soul, then maybe it should be presented in a more "holistic" (therapeutic?) way.

And it's a similar story with tease. Tease is the art, science and spirituality of wanting what you can't have. Now in an existential sense this is probably wrong, but in a sexual sense then maybe its very wrongness makes it right. It seems to provide a haven for dreamers and romantics, and I'm more than happy to go along with that! But how do you promote the art of wanting what you can't have? I think the answer is to say "Ok, well the thing you really want you can't have, but you can have everything else up until that point." Start with something small, then build from that base in a gradual cumulative process. I think that an accomplished female tease would take this approach, and as a male afficionado of tease I would certainly appreciate it.

If anyone has seen any quality women's porn lately, feel free to point me in the right dorection.